Our boys’ new adventures

This boy certainly knows how to make an entrance!!!
 
On Sunday, Stacey and I were blessed with … a false alarm.  Stacey ate a piece of chocolate cake at a friend’s birthday party which caused an upset stomach and then triggered real contractions.  Hospital seemed appropriate at that stage.  However, after much monitoring and a sleep deprived night in the hospital,  things settled.  Ian was sent back to work and, by Monday afternoon, Stacey was back at home.
 
Tuesday saw Stacey go to pre-natal yoga and Wednesday she even attended a work meeting.  However on Thursday, Stacey had some contractions over dinner.  We left home at ~8:30pm and, shortly after arriving at hospital, we were blessed with the arrival of Benjamin Roderick Lacy.  He arrived at 9:22pm in Parkway Health’s Birthing Centre in Shanghai after two short pushes by a very ready Mum.  At birth, he weighed in at 3.475kg and was 51cm long.  All were relieved he had finally decided to join the party.

Mother is very well after achieving her second all natural drug-free birth.  We are very grateful to Dr Michelle Lu Ferguson who assisted Stacey’s delivery of a healthy baby boy.
 
Michael was curious to visit Mummy in hospital and was keen to meet Benjamin after talking about him for months.  Benjamin was kind enough to bring Michael a welcome gift (a camera) so we think that their life-long relationship has gotten off to a great start.  Many thanks also to Nanna and Poppa who are here specially to play with Michael as he builds his friendship with Benjamin.  In fact, we think Benjamin waited for Nanna to arrive (she came to Shanghai on Wednesday night!).

Love from Shanghai,

Ian, Stacey, Michael and Benjamin

Finally the photos:

Our Boy’s album – March 2010

We thought that having the second baby come along would surely be the BIGGEST adjustment we’d need to make… however we are being tested even before second bubba comes to see if we can “take it all”!

Due to some visa issues, our lovely helper (Jenny) had to leave us and return to the Philippines.  As an overprotective mother and control-freak wife, I panicked.  What would happen to Michael, how will he adjust, do we go for Filipino / Chinese (fear of child abduction)?  But then, after a month of losing our helper, it dawned on me … it was me who had problems / issues with the adjustment (and still do!).  Of course, Ian being the ever wise and calm father & husband has been the pillar of strength to walk me through this month by teaching our new helper skills that she desperately needs (like what is a “sunny-side up egg”!?)

The fact that the new helper isn’t exactly as efficient or worldly as Jenny didn’t help either.  However what has been amazing is how well Michael has adjusted:

- we thought to put Michael for 5 mornings at Montessori starting Jan, so that it’d be less hectic when second bubba comes.  It proved timely and his chinese has been improving at an unbelievable speed (he is now singing mandarin nursery rhymes at bath time!)

- I (wanted to say “we” but…) thought Michael would have real issues with the new helper, but besides him taking advantage of her at times and pushing the limits (which he does to us at any rate), he is enjoying this new relationship!  English is a bit of an issue (the new filipino helper’s english isn’t great!), but he tends to just teach her the english when required!

At the end of the day, I take lots of comfort to know that Michael is okay even with this change and that he may possible be better equipped when second bubba comes.  Ian’s parents are coming soon (THANK god) and so they’ll be a great support to Michael and us.  I am about 7 weeks away from due date (and feeling it – waddling was never my favorite part!).  Michael has been sleeping relatively well in the “Big boy’s bed” despite wanting to come out when we put him down.  The next training will be to get him potty trained also, but I have learned to be “less aggressive” in mandating it!

Until next time, I have had no energy taking photos, but here is a couple of videos which I absolutely LOVE:

 http://picasaweb.google.com/staceylacy/MichaelSAlbumVideoClips 

Love from Shanghai – we’re entering into Chinese New Year soon and Michael loves saying “I am a “Lao Hu” – I am a Tiger!

What a holiday we had!  Michael has taken his first road trip driving from Sydney to Brisbane stopping at different beaches every day along the coast.  Due to the long drive, most days we made a stop at a McDonald’s where Michael was delighted in finding his “new playground”.  By the afternoon, we had reached the next town where a new beach awaited.  Whenever Michael got into the car, he’d say “I’m going to find a new playground and a new beach today!” and, of course, he did. After 5 days of travel, we travelled through the Blue Mountains, Port Stephens, Port Macquarie (my favorite) and Coffs Harbour (where the BIG banana was).  Thanks to Google Maps and its clever road-by-road directions guide, we finally reached Kingscliff where the Lacy clan vacationed by the beach for a week.  We celebrated Poppa’s 66th birthday and all the Lacys and Turners near and far were there.  Michael was just so excited to see his cousins, aunties, uncles and grandparents.  It was also where Michael’s exposure to sweets began (it was Christmas after all!!!):

- Michael is still not so sure about ice-cream as it was just too cold!
- frizzy drinks just hurt his little tongue and the face he’d make after a sip was hysterical!
- lollies looked a bit too strange and he didn’t quite want to touch them (yet)!
- chips and biscuits are just heavenly.  Michael shuffled as much of those chips/bikkies as he could at every occasion!
- the best highlight was probably the “melting moments”.  It looked harmless like a little mini-size puff pastry.  But boy does it melt.  After Auntie Tamara shared the ingredients (butter and sugar), it is no wonder why it was a hit!

Michael was also happily surprised by the amount of toys a little boy can receive in a short span!  We are not so sure how much he appreciates Santa but he sure can recognize who he is!

Just like any other visit to Brisbane, every day was colorful and eventful meeting up with Ian’s mates and friends.  To Michael, he loved visiting everyone’s home as there is again a new playground to be found (someone’s backyard)!  The quieter moments would be where he hung out with Nanna/Poppa’s new puppy Oscar who gave him many kisses and licks while he rode Ian’s childhood scooter.  Everyday was an adventure for our little yet quickly growing boy!

We then returned to Shanghai for a relatively quiet new year.  However 2010 has had a lot for us already!  Our lovely helper is leaving soon and we are scrambling to get a new one.  Plus our second baby is coming along at the end of March.  Second bubba is a little too small for his size and I am having tests again for gestational diabetes (sigh).   All seems a bit crazy at the moment but I hope that as the year progresses, we will get it sorted.  As Ian always says, as long as we’re together, we will find the right solution!

In the meantime, enjoy our photos from Christmas:

http://picasaweb.google.com/staceylacy/MichaelSAlbumMyAustraliaAdventures

Love from Shanghai,

Ian, Stacey, Michael (who loves to say “I don’t know” and “I don’t want it”!) and bubba at 29 weeks.

Every year, we try to make sure we’re considerate of the environment and hene comes an e-version of our Christmas Greetings!  Wishing everyone a wonderful Christmas and the best new year to come:

Much love from Australia, where we’re having a wonderfully warm Christmas!

Ian, Stacey, Michael (at 2 who is hoping to see Santa Claus) and the bump at 6.5 months-baked

Michael had his first parent’s meeting at school at the mere age of 2!  Firstly, the school was definitely not designed for working moms (and dads for that matter)!  They smacked us in the middle of a morning and there was no possibility that Ian or I could make it.  So we had to change it to the last appointment.   So the 3 teachers were really tired by the time they greeted us…

The meeting quickly began by presenting Michael”s scorecard… it has categories such as:

- Social Develpment (do they shares toys, any respect for children, do they follow instructions)

- Care of environment (do they clean up and “respect” for toys, do they have table manners)

- Language Development

- Working time (can they work alone and with others?!)

and mostly Michael was ranked as “developing” as opposed to “Not Shown”, “Established” or “Advanced”… in general the comments from teacher Jenny was as follows:

- Michael’s biting episode was probably prompted by the other child and as long as they’re separated, no such incidence has occurred (what a relief for us!)

- Michael is an independent boy and he is good at sharing his toys (in general)

- Michael is very good in English (got really good esp after learning from the other children) but his Chinese is practically non-existent! (see i am not only bad at teaching Ian Chinese… it’s the same for Michael – must find a better way!)

All in all, he is developing well and is truly enjoying school… when I walked out, I was so impressed with how organized the school… and of course Ian being the ever logical mind simply replied, “you get what you paid for.”

Photos posting has been made really difficult since Google Photos are also blocked in China!  Sadly to say, after a year living in this confined freedom, we’re getting used to the lack of it.  Enjoy our photos and until we write in Australia during our holidays!!!

Michael’s album – Autumn in Shanghai

Michael’s album – he is TWO!!!

Love from Shanghai,

p.s. We have had two weeks of Gung Gung and Poh Poh’s spoiling for Michael and it was nice to get some grandparents time.  Next will be X’mas holiday for Nanna and Poppa by the beach… we CAN’T wait!

D-day had come.  Michael was finally due for school (well – pre-nursery and 2 mornings a week!).  But we (maybe more Mama than Dada) were anxious in terms of preparation.  There were several phone calls made to school prior to the “orientation day”, but all we got as answers were  ” oh, just pop in on orientation day and you’ll find out”… Grrr, not exactly what a type-A parents need to hear!

On the day of “orientation day”, both Ian and I were there and Michael was as BRAVE as ever although he did some funny things:

- held on to my hand’s really really tight!

- didn’t know what to do with all the new toys!

- all the teachers (and the main teacher has same name as Michael’s nanny – Jenny!) were a little overwhelming – in the world of China, they were able to afford 3 teachers (2 females and 1 male) and 1 ayi (helper).

- didn’t quite understand the mandarin that was being spoken, so lots of translation from us!

Although I was there with Michael the whole time during the Orientation Day, we were pretty confident to let him go to school by himself the following Monday.  And so we did!  Oh, it was hard to see our little boy grow so quickly, but when he was at school this morning, it clearly showed that he was “almost” ready for school:

- no tears when we dropped him off

- frowned upon other children who were taking turns to cry!  (There were a set of twins as young as 16 months!! I can’t imagine Michael going to school so young!)

- only wanted to find his mama around 11ish (school ended at 12:20 p.m.) and Michael was relieved when he finally saw me!  I could still see the tears around his eyes (how heart-breaking!)

- I asked him if he liked school and he said “es…”.  I also asked if he wanted to come back to school again tomorrow and the answer was also “es…”!

All in all it was a success!  We are so proud of our little boy… enjoy the photos:

Michael’s Album – 22 months old

Love from Shanghai until next time…  we’re eagerly waiting to attend Uncle Gary and Leona tse tse’s wedding party soon in Hong Kong.

Our little baby turned 21 months and Michael is only one month away from his first school day.  It is pretty scary that our once little tiny (3.88 kg) newborn baby is now a yabbering little kid, who is way smarter than we ever imagined.

We mortal adults really ought to give our children more credit than they deserve.  Although their speech capabilities are still developing, the amount of understanding through their observations is just incredible, examples like the below just blow our minds away:

1.  Michael can help sing the national australian anthem

2.  Michael carries a proper phone conversation with me while I am on business trip (sharing with me about his day and what he ate for dinner!)

 3.  One morning, I found him climbing onto the top bunk bed by himself!!!  (gave me a real fright and Ian was secretly proud of Michale’s achievement!)

 For our not-so-latest photos:

Michael’s album – 20 months old

With love from Shanghai and until next time.

Having lived in mainland China for some 8 months, it was time for us as a family to explore our nearby travel options.  Therefor we chose to travel to Beijing.  The first time I visited Beijing was 16 years ago and that was also the first time that I was really proud to be Chinese.  Visiting Beijing again gives me a lot of pride.  Also I felt I was actually showing Ian my history/country (which he has been doing of Australia for years)!!!

Although we were only there for four days and had only visited a few places (Bird’s Nest Stadium, Water-cube, Forbidden city, Tianamen Square and the Great Wall), we had an incredible time.  We also had glorious weather the whole time (what was all the fuss about Beijing Pollution!?  It’s sooo much worse in Shanghai!).  Money must have solved some of those pollution problems!

Michael just had the best time – he LOVED the GREAT WALL!  We went to the part of Mutianyu (there are several parts of the Great Wall which are opened for tourism.  I went to the Badaling part in my first visit however, I have to say that, Mutianyu is MUCH better)!  We went really early in the morning and pulled out all the tricks in the 1.5 hour car ride with Michael!  Books, toys, songs, camera (with video of Michael)…and books again!  Michael finally lost it just as we approached the Wall.  Then it was uphill from there. 

We took the cable car (which Michael was scared – and is still saying “skard” when he sees the cable car brochure) and he attempted to walk most of the Wall that we did.  The weather was beautiful and it wasn’t crowded (until we were on our way leaving the Wall).  Then we topped it off by going to a local “western” cafe which had a terrace – it was set in a school house (and hence its name).  It was perfect. 

After returning to the Beijing city, we took an adventure and took the subway to the Olympic Stadiums.  They were magnificent.  Michael couldn’t care less about where he was – but he was excited about the HUGE square and proceeded to run everywhere.  Needless to say, he had a great sleep that night – Beijing definitely worked those little legs!

In this holiday, it made very clear a few things about a toddler:

- doesn’t matter where you go, as long as Mama and Dada are around

- doesn’t matter what you do, as long as there is a big area to run around

- doesn’t matter how much you plan, as long as you sort of follow some routine and don’t be overly-aggressive in the planning.

All in all, we had a wonderful time.  Can’t wait for the next holidays!  Until then, enjoy our photos and love from Shanghai.

Michael’s Album – Beijing, China

I had been away for business and after I returned, there was a very strong feeling that my son has suddenly grown up on me! Today, he proved it by having an actual phone conversation with me at lunch time…

Mama: are you going to sleep (nap) now?
Mug: ..es (Yes)
Mama: have you been a good boy this morning?
Mug: ..es (another yes)
Mama: did you miss mama?
Mug: Saad (sad)
Mama: ok, bye bye now
Mug: bye bye… then a blow kiss (umh ah!)
Mama: I love you!
Mug: ruv ya! (love you…)

It’s amazing how fast our son has grown in a matter of days…

Until my blog on BJ is ready, love from shanghai.

During the “Ching Ming” festival long weekend, we didn’t manage to go to Hangzhou (where the west lake is the most famous lake in China) as planned.   So I was “determined” to still do things touristy and green while being in Shanghai.  Here was our itinerary:

“Yu Garden” – as the name suggests, it should be a garden.  That was what we expected until we saw a million people in a “market” – it was more like the “ladies market”!  You could have imagined how “bored” Michael looked sitting in his stroller!

“Gu Cheng Park” – after being pretty disappointed, we walked to another nearby park and again there was another million people at the park (there are ~20 million people living in Shanghai).  However, in this park, every patch of grass was pristine and beautifully manicured.  Naturally we wanted to explore the grassed part of the park.  However we were a little suspicious as nobody was walking or sitting on the grass.  So we checked all the signs for whether we were allowed on the grass.  Since all the signs were in strange Chinese quotes (like “the grass doesn’t have feelings but you do so please cherish it”), we let Michael go rolling around the grass.  Suddenly an uniformed officer blew his whistle to tell us to get off!  We ran fast before we got caught and possibly put into the Chinese Jail!

“Century Park” – after the diasterous experience the previous day, we (rather I) had to re-correct the image of Shanghai and decided to stay on the Pudong side (which is supposed to be the “quieter” side of the river) and go to a park that costs money.  At Century Park, we saw the third million people.  Since you pay to get into this park, you are allowed to walk on a little bit of the grass.  However, at the grassy patch, there were “tents” (yes real camping tents) spread around doing “picnics”.  It was madness.  Ian frowned the whole morning, while Michael just cruised along wondering how come his world was suddenly so populated!  Ian even commented that we could have done our picnic at the backyard of our apartment complex! (and annoyingly he was right!)

So the lessons we learned were as follows:

- no visiting parks on the weekends (especially long weekends!)

- China is the most populated country in the world.  It is unlikely we can find a place that is not heavily populated (so manage your expectations!)

- Michael as a toddler just doesn’t care where he is, as long as his mama and dada are around!

Michael’s Album – 17.5 months

Until next time, love from Shanghai,

Ian, Stacey & Michael (who answers “Noooo” when we asked if he is a baby!)